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Solo Road Trip Across America and Back With 4 Kids

March 22, 2016

It’s hard to believe that around this time last year, I had begun my 48-State RV Tour – 1 Mom + 4 Kids in a 31 Foot Motorhome.  To say the adventure was life changing is an understatement. Not a single day goes by that I don’t miss the experience or reflect on how it has shaped my life–or the lives of my children.


The view on the day I launched the solo USA road trip with my 4 children.

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Can Marriage Survive Extreme Commuting, Solo Travel or Non-Traditional Living Arrangements?

July 8, 2015

In the past several years, I’ve had front row seats to seeing some significant marriages deteriorate, fall apart slowly, end suddenly or unexpectedly, and explode into nothingness after stagnancy or seemingly normalcy.

While I am very thankful that my Reality Bites era relationship continues with a wonderful being, the dissolution, troubled waters, or evolution of so many familiar marriages, has undoubtedly influenced, and in some ways changed, my thoughts about marriage, commitment, and cultural/social expectations and pressures.

Of course, there are also those two not-so-small details, of being a wife and mother of young kids who (1) lives in an extreme commuting marriage and (2) travels often as a solo mom traveler with kids in tow, which lend an interesting perspective to marriage, including the purpose and meaning of it.

I lost count long ago how many times I’ve been asked how my marriage survives miles, countries, states, flights, time zones, occasional birthdays or anniversaries apart.  Somewhere along the journey of life, marriage, babies and more babies–which if all mushed together would look like one giant, overlapping venn diagram that resembles my story–I stopped counting the number of times I’ve been asked, what’s your secret?

Listening to Four Hour Work Week Author’s Tim Ferriss’ podcast interview (Is It Time to Kill Sacred Cows in Your Relationship?) with ‘The Tellers’, authors of Sacred Cows, a book that examines marriage and apparently (I have yet to read it) ‘invites readers to question assumptions and conventional wisdom’ about finding partners, marriage, and divorce, made me immediately think of the pile of relationship-themed fiction and non-fiction books that have graced the table next to my bed in recent months.


I could guess that I’m drawn to marriage/relationship heavy books lately because of the happenings around me.  Perhaps it’s just human nature.  Perhaps it’s my academic background.  Maybe it’s my interest in finding my own place in the world with what looks like a seemingly, although increasingly more common, unconventional marriage.

And still, maybe I’ve just needed some “fun,” beach-type reading material after a long year of homeschooling my kids and intense travel.

So without further ado, here are some of the books that I’ve recently read that will have you rethinking marriage, relationships, unconventional marriages, the influence of society and culture on our private lives and personal relationship decisions.  But perhaps above all, these books, which dare I say may not be the ‘smartest’ or most academic of books on the shelves (though are entertaining), will nevertheless leave you asking yourself, ‘Am I living my truth?’

And, maybe only in my case asking, when exactly did I find time to read all of those books?

You Are in the Driver’s Seat of Your Own Happiness.

Can your marriage (or other important relationships) survive extreme commuting, solo travel, non-traditional living arrangements, unusual or usual life circumstances, changes or forces?  Only you (and hopefully your better half) can ultimately know best.  These 7 books may just remind you that you are in the driver’s seat of your own happiness, within marriage/relationships/friendships and beyond them.

1.  Sex at Dawn:  How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan.  This book will leave you wondering if what you thought you knew about relationships, mating, and monogamy is really all what it is.

2.  Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn.  First off, ummm…yes, the book is soooo much better than the movie.  This book will leave you asking yourself, are you showing your partner who you really are, and is your partner showing you who he/she really is.

3.  Becoming Barenaked by Jenn BareNaked.  This book features real journal entries about a family who sold their belongings and homes, gave up a sizable salary and the traditional American dream to live the full-time travel, RV lifestyle. This book will have you asking yourself, how would your closest relationships with your spouse/significant other, family, children, and friends be affected or changed if you were to follow your truest dreams and live your life authentically, on your own terms.

4.  Fifty Shades of Grey by EL James.  Another book that is better than the movie, but isn’t that the way it usually goes?  This book, although somewhat amusing, incredibly annoying, and disturbing at the same time, is one of those books that you sorta may want to read if only because 100 million copies of it have been sold around the world.  Importantly, this book, even if considered ‘trashy,’ bearing a ‘nasty, misogynist residue,’ and fueled by the manipulation of women’s insecurities, leaves you better understanding why people may find themselves in less than ideal, co-dependent, or abusive relationships, and have you asking whether relationships can be rehabilitated or rekindled through sex.

5.  The Wild Oats Project by Robin Rinaldi.  This book will leave you asking yourself if you are brutally honest with yourself would you give up your relationship (‘give it all up’) as the author did in this ‘real life’ story to pursue desire–and importantly, would it be worth it in the end?

6.  Adultery by Paulo Coelho.  I admit, I was drawn to this book because the author walked 500+ miles of the Camino de Santiago, although the book has nothing to do with that pilgrimage.  At first blush, this book seems basic–an old flame, bored, unhappy, working wife/mother, trying to find happiness years into marriage.  However, this book takes you on a journey looking for answers to what it means to be truly happy, and how to find that somewhat elusive (if not evolving) sweet spot between routine and desire for newness.

7. Wild by Cheryl Strayed.  And yet another book that is so much better than the movie!  A book with threads of destroyed, lost, and found marriages, relationships, identity, this book leaves no stone of self-discovery unturned.  If truth and making your way to the driver’s seat of your own life is what you are after–or wonder if it might be, this book will gear you up to start figuring out yourself and thinking about your most meaningful or influential relationships.

Further related reading on the subject of unconventional marriages and relationships:

Thanks Darren Rowse for the Podcast inspiration to finally put this post that has been circulating in my head to ‘paper.’

Happy Wandering!



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7 Reasons Why Solo Travel with Kids Will Make Your Life Better

June 23, 2015
cumberland island

Wandering on Cumberland Island

If the idea of traveling solo with your kids, whether on a short road trip or on an extended travel adventure, makes you cringe, flood with fear, and want to run and hide, read on.

Would you believe me if I told you that there’s a good chance that solo travel with kids will make your life better? Not only are you tough enough, strong enough, and capable enough to travel solo with a kid crew, but you’re sure to gain so much from even one solo trip that you just might find yourself planning another solo adventure sooner than later!

11 Reasons Why Solo Travel with Kids Will Make Your Life Better

1.  It will reset/redefine your expectations and comfort zone.  After you travel solo, the things that seemed big and overwhelming before travel will seem so much smaller and manageable after travel.  Solo travel teaches you how to “wing it” when you forget something like a spare set of clothes when your child throws up in the car.  Solo travel forces you to ask for help when you need it, like when you need help carrying a stroller up a set of stairs in the Paris Metro, which makes tasks like asking other parents to help plan the preschool end-of-the-year party or pony up volunteer hours at an after school activity that much easier.

2.  It’s so, so, so much easier than you think.  Just decide you want to travel, and you’ll find every resource under the sun online to help make your dream a reality, from free art classes for kids in your desired location to kid-friendly “best” lists like restaurants and things to do.

3.  It’s uber educational.  Your kids will learn so much from travel.  You might even be shocked how much a child can learn in just a few days of a travel adventure.  A few days of a travel adventure could be the equivalent of a priceless educational experience–and even the equivalent of weeks, months, or years spent learning in a traditional classroom.  It’s impossible to compare seeing the world and hands-on learning with textbook, classroom learning. Solo travel with kids teaches kids to become self-reliant, motivated, confident learners.

4.  You and your kids will develop new skills and strengths.  You’ll not only tap into skills and inner-strengths you may not have realized you had, but solo travel with kids will teach your kids that anything is possible if they want to make it happen.  You’ll discover strengths that you didn’t know you had.  You’ll inspire your kids to discover their strengths, too.

5.  You’ll meet people who will change your life.  Solo travel with kids opens doors to meeting people who you might not meet if you were traveling with a spouse, friend, companion, or group.  You’ll meet other families and people who want to hear all about your adventures. They will offer you travel ideas, tips, and teach you things you might not otherwise discover unless it was just you and your crew in tow.

6.  You’ll learn to deal with being alone.  When it’s just you, responsible for your kids, with no other parent, partner, grandparent, or friend in sight, you learn how to be a rockstar grown up, capable of handling all sorts of situations and navigating challenges.  You’ll learn to face fears that maybe you knew you had and deal with new fears head on.  Your kids will see that fears can be successfully dealt with and managed–and that they don’t have to be defined by can’ts or society’s should-nots. They’ll learn that not all places or people are scary, and come to see the world as a place of possibility and beauty.

7.  You’ll experience freedom.  When you travel solo, you get to call the shots.  Sure, the kids can try to cramp your style and whine about where you’ve chosen to eat dinner if you’re not in the mood for working out a consensus, but in the end you get the final say! You (and/or your kids) can go where you want to, when you want to.  In the morning when you get up, it’s just you and the kiddies and the wind ready to blow you wherever you’d like to go.  Everyday is truly an adventure when you travel solo with children!

Solo travel with kids is one of the coolest experiences I’ve ever come to know. It’s an experience that will show you what you’re made of, show you your (and your kids’) true colors, and build lasting memories and bonds that are truly priceless.

Happy Wandering!